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  • Writer's pictureCassidy Lovallo

Navigating Online Dating: A Guide for Neurodiverse Adults

Updated: Feb 19

Online dating has revolutionized the way people meet and connect, offering a wide

range of opportunities for individuals seeking meaningful relationships. For

neurodiverse adults, this can be both an exciting and challenging experience. While

online dating platforms provide a convenient way to meet potential partners, they can

also present unique difficulties for those who think and process information differently.

In this blog post, we will explore some practical tips and strategies to help neurodiverse

adults navigate the world of online dating with confidence and authenticity.

Understanding Neurodiversity

Neurodiversity encompasses a wide range of neurological differences, including autism,

ADHD, dyslexia, and other developmental and neurological conditions. It is crucial to

recognize and embrace neurodiversity as a natural and valuable aspect of the human

experience. When it comes to dating, understanding one's own neurodiversity and being open to others' differences can pave the way for meaningful connections.

Choosing the Right Platform

Not all dating platforms are created equal. It's important to choose a platform that is

inclusive, user-friendly, and respectful of diverse identities and abilities. Unfortunately,

not all popular dating applications offer individuals the opportunity to disclose their

neurodiversity or openness to dating a neurodiverse person. This lack of transparency

when seeking neurodivergent-affirming relationships can make the process of making

new connections and forming romantic relationships difficult.

Saying this, some platforms have features specifically designed for neurodiverse

individuals, such as sensory-friendly interfaces and accessibility options. Research

different platforms to find one that aligns with your needs and preferences, or begin

your search with the applications below:

A global and local Not For Profit organization providing inspiration, education,

mentoring, networking and practical advice to empower women (and men) to

build and grow their careers in technology and pursue their ambitions. Offers

several online and in person opportunities to meet other individuals who are

affirming of neurodiverse adults and their unique life experiences.

Hiki — meaning “able” in Hawaiian — is a friendship and dating mobile app for the

Autistic community. It is a space where neurodiversity is embraced and being

atypical is celebrated. Every part of Hiki, from ideation to design to launch, has

been built with Autistic adults to make sure that it is representative of

Neurodivergent needs, and is open to all individuals.

An up and coming dating/friendship app that has the mission to break the

conventional dating app mold in order to provide a space to meet everyone’s

unique connection needs, starting with friendship.


Uneepi is a dating site/app safely designed to support those on the autism

spectrum that want to pursue relationships or friendships and better themselves.

Creating an Authentic Profile

When creating an online dating profile, authenticity is key. Be honest about your

interests, hobbies, and what you are looking for in a relationship. Highlight your

strengths and unique qualities, and don't be afraid to mention your neurodiversity if you

feel comfortable doing so. Being upfront can help attract potential partners who

appreciate you for who you are, and lead to deeper connections and relationships

Setting Boundaries

Setting boundaries is essential in any relationship, and online dating is no exception.

Clearly define your boundaries and communicate them respectfully. This might include

specifying your comfort levels with certain types of communication, the pace of the

relationship, or any sensory sensitivities you may have. Respect others' boundaries as

well, creating a foundation of mutual understanding and respect.

Communication Tips

Effective communication is the cornerstone of any successful relationship, and can be

challenging over the internet when texting/emailing/calling. For neurodiverse

individuals, being clear and direct in communication can prevent misunderstandings..

Use simple and straightforward language, and don't hesitate to ask questions if

something is unclear. Active listening is equally important – give your full attention to

your conversation partner and show genuine interest in what they are saying.

It is a common experience to feel nervous or unsure how to approach conversations

with new individuals, with therapy being a great resource for neurodiverse individuals to

gain new interpersonal skills and increase their confidence and ability to regulate their

emotions in new situations.

Handling Rejections and Embracing Reassurance

Rejections are a natural part of the dating process and can be challenging for anyone.

It's important to remember that rejection does not define your worth or desirability. Seek

support from friends, family, or a therapist if you need help processing your feelings.

Similarly, if you experience positive interactions or receive compliments, embrace them

with gratitude. Positive reinforcement can boost self-esteem and confidence.


Online dating offers exciting opportunities for neurodiverse adults to connect with

potential partners and build meaningful relationships. By understanding your strengths,

being honest about your neurodiversity, and practicing effective communication, you

can navigate the online dating world with confidence. Remember, finding the right

connection may take time, but it's worth the effort. Embrace your uniqueness, stay true to yourself, and you'll be on your way to finding the love and companionship you desire.


Neurodivergent and interested in working with an affirming therapist that can assist you

in reaching your personal goals? Send us a message or give us a call to set up a free 15

minute consultation with one of our amazing therapists!

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